To complicate matters, the men tennis finals of the French open is just about to begin - and I have been a tennis nut for many years, so my input here will tend to be patchy.
Now a few hours later. Rain delay. I thought Djokovic would win it - but Nadal is just too good up to now.
To get back to why I think there's a major discrepancy between the amount of male submissives and the same amount of female dominants? First, I think you should prove that there should be an equal amount of both types - and I think that there should. Here's my reasoning.
Take males first. I should state first, that I'm talking about Caucasian males. Semitic and Asian males have entirely different ideas of masculinity, of which I know nothing. If I graph out males on a basis of masculinity, femininity, they'll form a bell shaped curve - right?
Now, there's no question in my mind that the most masculine male is more masculine than any female. At the same time, a more feminine woman is more feminine than any male. When you graph the women on the same basis of masculine / feminine, you'll again have a bell shaped curve.
Now, put both graphs together and I think that ANYONE must admit that there are women who are more masculine than some men. Right? So, there must be an overlap of the two curves - AND? That overlap indicates that the same percentage of women are dominants as versus the same percentage of men who are submissive. (I think that the amounts of male / females are different. I just don't know what they are. Face it - there's a helluva lot more elder women than there are elderly men - but where you should see a LOT more dominant females amongst the elderly? You don't).
Now I go back to my own experiences. Like I admit, I've been in the closet for many years. At the same time though, with my writing, I've corresponded with many transvestites. Acted as a consultant in transvestite / spouse forums. Actively participated in Mrs. Silk's Chat rooms. In every case, I found that Carrie's question is valid. Where in hell's name ARE all of those dommes?
I've come to the conclusion that the answer to this must be social. Let's face it. Most of us are in the closet. Why?
The answer to this, for us, must be that it's shameful to be "less masculine than society expects". So, as I can only guess that as women face the same society - and expectations - they don't want to admit being "more masculine than society expects". So? You have a whole mess of people deep in the closet and they don't want to come out. Now add the 'fact'(?) that the male of the species has a stronger sexual drive, and this could be an indication of why we have seemingly a lot more visible male submissives than female dominants.
Now I don't expect a lot of agreement on this point - but will somebody please say SOMETHING?
Well, the game re-started and my choice has come from being dominated to being right back in the game. Naturally - there's now another rain delay, so I'll try and finish this mess up!
After all my bitching, I should add. Thank you for contributing something to this blog, Belinda. I really do appreciate it.
Most of my readers have probably read the following story - but if you haven't read it? Here's hoping that you enjoy it,