ONE comment - which I intend to copy below. (I don't think Belinda will mind). And? ONE person who indicated an interest and wanted more. Jesus Murphy!
I went to the theatre (THEATUH DAHLING!) on Sunday as my wife and I are subscribers to the Cygnet Theatre in San Diego. They were staging a play called "Dirty Blonde". It was a good play - not excellent - based primarily on Mae West - but it had something that was of immense interest to me. The main male character is a heterosexual transvestite - and it examines, in part, the problems that face both he and his girlfriend when she finds out. Not only that? It does it with humor and compassion.
At the same time - and this is honestly pure truth. The play finished and my wife and I headed for our respective bathrooms. Naturally, I finished well before her. Three women were standing close to me.
"Where's XXX?" (I don't remember the name). One of them asked of another. "He's gone to the bathroom. I think he's going to vomit." One lady replied.
"Vomit. Like being sick?"
"Yeah. He can't abide men dressing as women. Makes him vomit."
This is honestly true. I wondered - and I wonder if you guys think the same thing?
"Methinks he protesteth too much?"
Belinda - thanks. I'm not into the accuracy of the statistics quoted. (I immediately wonder how they got the information) - but I think that what you say shouldn't be buried as a comment. So here it is.
Thanks Bea. I am glad that i can sometimes make a contribution. I would like to say something about the demographics of male and female dominance/submission. I did some research on this topic looking at Fetlife profiles, and wrote it up last year in my blog,
The first thing I would say is that you shouldn't refer to masculinity and femininity / dominance and submission as if these were the same, correlated but distinctly different.
There are 3x as many male profiles as female profiles on fetlife so there are just a lot more kinky males than females. Most of these males are dominant as most females are submissive, but 4% of all profiles are female dominants. Still pure male submissives are 14% and another 25% of profiles are males who are D/S switches. Anyway you look at it, there are at least 3 men looking to be dominated for every female who describes herself as a dominant.
I think the odds for transgender and sissy males is even more steep. Most dominant females in my experience are not necessarily looking for feminized males. The most common relationship is a dominant female and a male slave who doesn't have any particular intereest in female clothes.
Having said all that, I think that a feminine male, has a reasonable chance of finding a female dominant who will honor their fantasies to some extent. I know a few couples which would fit very nicely in a Bea story. I served tea at a Lady's House not long ago, where there were in excess of two dozen dominant ladies, who were at least charmed by my maid's attire if they didn't necessarily want to rip it off.
I think one big problem for many submissive males, including feminized males in meeting dominants is that ...well to put it bluntly they are pretenders, something a dominant lady friend of mine calls wankers. They want a fantasy to occur, in which a woman plays a fantasy dominant. But this is what keeps professional dommes in business. If you want to have a relationship with a real dominant woman, then rule one is ..respect Her dominance. You are the submissive. You are supposed to be doing what she wants, fulfilling her fantasies. Approach Her on a site like fetlife with a resolve to fulfill Her desires foremost, freely admitting that you are perhaps only submissive when allowed to wear your frillies, and some of your readers may be surprised to find that they can find relationships with dominant women that mutually fulfill fantasies.